Posts by eva luna

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Birthday Wishes Welcome!

by LifesNotOver in

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friends

many of you don't know me or won't remember me.

i left the jw's and my husband and my home last september - forging a new life in a new town.

i haven't posted here for many months, but have been reading most days.

eva luna

Wow , you are a trail blazing Woman.

Happy Birthday to you.

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undeserved kindness vs. grace

by nowwhat? in

undeserved kindness means- you puny humans are irredemable and worthless, but because i am such a benevolent and magnanimous god.

i give you a way for salvation.

but you better keep working day in and day out for the rest of your miserable lives and perhaps i'll save you on my day of wrath.

eva luna

That phrase always made me feel unworthy.

The intent was to never let you feel secure with god. Keep you on the hamster treadmill till you die....I hated it.

Hated it as much as a spanking from a parent that said 'this hurts me more than it will hurt you'

[lets hide the wooden spoons and hot wheel tracks little brother]

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So, the Womens March ... What Is It For?

by Simon in

it seems like mobilizing after the election, which seems pointless.

i keep hearing demands for equal rights but don't understand what rights they are missing exactly.. normally a march is to show the support (and potential votes) for a cause, but ... votes for what?

... and the election happened already.. is anyone else confused?

eva luna

fuck me it's January

time to kick up the dust for the board?

You are a smart man I cant believe you have.................never mind.

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So, the Womens March ... What Is It For?

by Simon in

it seems like mobilizing after the election, which seems pointless.

i keep hearing demands for equal rights but don't understand what rights they are missing exactly.. normally a march is to show the support (and potential votes) for a cause, but ... votes for what?

... and the election happened already.. is anyone else confused?

eva luna

Come on Man....

Sometimes its better to ask and listen.

I am a white looking female , Living in the US.

He has offended ALL women , Let alone anyone that cant pass.

I can list more people that he has offended if you like??

Gees

don't answer you own damn questions

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which world is this?_________________when the doctor pulled my screaming body out of mom all those 7 decades ago, i landed in a post-wwii world.it was--compared to today's world--an alien planet.. the world i live in today has nothing in common with the world in which i grew up.. there were no cell phones back then--there were black telephones with a dial-tone and an operator who placed your call.

everywhere you found telephone booths!

a call was a nickle.where did all those telephone booths go?i dunno.where did my whole world go?i dunno.. tv sets were huge boxes with tubes and small screens.

eva luna

I enjoyed reading your post Terry. All the comment too.

So much has changed .

Cameras without film, I'm still rebelling on that one.

A good black Royal or Carona typewriter.

I loved the sound of my mom tap tap tapping out my dads talks late at night. There's a shop in Bazerkley CA were they sell and repair them.

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Hospice and JW

by Terry Clees in

i am a bereavement coordinator with a hospice company.

i have noticed that most often jw patients decline chaplain care and also the family ends up declining bereavement care.

where i work our chaplains do not proselytize at all...they merely walk with the patient in their faith at the end of life.

eva luna

Hi there Teri Cless

I have had hospice help my family twice.

JW's most likely will be afraid of speaking to an outsider about anything . Not just religion. They are an insular group and depend on each other, and mostly the Elders for support.

In my situation. Myself having left the group. I found them helpful. During the process and after. I went to a Hospice therapist for almost a year.

It wasn't just me though. I was able to be a comfort to my leaving loved ones by their advice. I learned to bite my tongue and say loving things to ease my dying loved ones. I said things that calmed their anxiety. Things I no longer believed.

Yes, sometimes we do that.

My advice is to look for the quit one in the corner. The outsider. The one that isn't quit fitting in. That's were you may do some good.

It's thoughtful of you to come here and ask.

Take care

eva

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Cooking With Cast Iron

by Simon in

i can't even remember what got me interested in pans, probably wanting to try cooking more and watching some cooking videos on youtube, but i kind of started wanting to get a cast-iron skillet specifically so started reading up on them.

hey, if you're going to spend $50 on something you need to study them and create a comparison spreadsheet ... right?.

not only did cast-iron look great for cooking but there are some studies that show risks to aluminium / teflon cookware ... not that the wts was "right" about aluminium, but teflon can give off carcinogenic chemicals if overheated (so what if it chips off into your food?).

eva luna

Xanthippie

About that first pancake...

You are so right.

Got to adjust about everything. Batter to thin? Skillet not hot enough..etc., etc..

We called it The First Child.

[I'm one smile]

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Cooking With Cast Iron

by Simon in

i can't even remember what got me interested in pans, probably wanting to try cooking more and watching some cooking videos on youtube, but i kind of started wanting to get a cast-iron skillet specifically so started reading up on them.

hey, if you're going to spend $50 on something you need to study them and create a comparison spreadsheet ... right?.

not only did cast-iron look great for cooking but there are some studies that show risks to aluminium / teflon cookware ... not that the wts was "right" about aluminium, but teflon can give off carcinogenic chemicals if overheated (so what if it chips off into your food?).

eva luna

I love mine too. :-)

The best for a frittata. perfection.

They are passed down in the Family.

Ha, they are a better weapon of mass fear than a lightweight aluminum pan. Meow.

You can find them at garage sales and goodwill sometimes. Usually over cleaned though.

PS , butter is good for you. Trust me.

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How many JWs still have a personal conscience?

by contramundum in

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friends

in conversation with an old jw friend today, it struck me that most jws have replaced their personal conscience with a collective one.. instead of training their own mental powers to distinguish right from wrong, as the bible encourages, they are content to shift personal accountability away from themselves and onto the impersonal org.

whatever behaviour may prompt an ordinary person to have serious misgivings ( such as ignoring glaring misapplication of scripture or rejecting basic human decency in favour of unchristian shunning ) they prefer to have those decisions made for them.. history teaches us, however, that there is no absolution for people who behave unethically or cruelly by allowing the excuse of 'obeying orders' to override what their inner voice should scream is inherently wrong..

eva luna

' a collective conscience'

I spent a lot of time thinking about this on my way out.

What I came away with is , you don't develop a 'conscience' if you live by rules.

Your brain isn't engaged in the same way.

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Fight Fire With Fire!

by The Searcher in

wolves use their "loyalty" questions to trap others - "do you believe we're living in the last days/this is god's organization/faithful slave?

" - yet resolutely avoid discussing topics which put their org in a bad light, my "loyalty" question to them would be - "do you accept literature truth over bible truth?

" they will either run or be forced to ask for examples of alleged differences.any other suggestions for "loyalty" questions?.

eva luna

First off , I now avoid people that ask that trap question.

Years ago when I was doing my fade, and got the friendly visit with a CO and an Elder I did really like.

I lied. I told them what they needed to hear. Got to keep it very short though, and look very hurt and shocked.

Heck , I was taught by them to lie as a kid. ' Grandma I don't like Christmas gifts. I get gifts all year long.' lol

No guilt. 'Theocratic warfare' Karma

Life is to short to have that type of conversation. If stupid me can figure it out , than they can too, if they want to. They don't. Gosh they all have their Ipads , it's at their finger tips.